My Feminism is Black

It has taken me months to even articulate what this feels like.

November stung, more than I anticipated and yes, I cried like a baby when Donald Trump was announced the 45th President of the United States. I was scared, more angry then I am used to feeling and my anxiety draped over me like a heavy blanket as I had to muster up the courage to face reality.

Because after all. All of the odds are against me.

I am a WOMAN. A product of a BIRACIAL marriage – my father is BLACK and my mother is the daughter of a Filipino IMMIGRANT.

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I am fearful for black lives, muslim lives, women’s lives, LGBTQ lives. Some of my best friends make up these communities. Why don’t we matter?

But then the Women’s March came. A march that I had mixed emotions about attending and/or supporting, initially. A march that would be looked at as just another “protest” in Oakland, California. While I am fully here for equal rights and pay for women, I am hurting for the 258 black lives that were taken in 2016 by police officers. I finally realized where I stand in this mess – I am a feminist because of my blackness.

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Saturday, January 21 2017. I woke up with a fire inside of me, and I am so thankful that I listened to it. I marched through Downtown Oakland with two women that inspire me most. Two women that have valued education, independence, and equality. My best friend’s mother (left) and my mother (right).

I held my mom’s hand with tears in my eyes, and got to experience a moment so special to me that I will never forget. The entire city of Oakland chanted “Black Lives Matter” and “Yes we can, Yes we will”, and our solidarity was louder than ever. For the first time, in a long time, I wasn’t scared.

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Saturday was magic. 

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And while I skimmed through jarring headlines just 24 hours later, January 21st will always be magic. I pray that we continue to stand together as allies, and that as a nation we always stand up for what is right as a human race.

Because after all, love is love is love is love.

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Lovely Links

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1. Because everything deserves to be lovely, even your toilet paper holder. (Designlovefest.com)

2. Because everyone should be rocking these lip colors this month. (vogue.com)

3. Because, I’m nerdy and even smart people are misusing these phrases. (inc.com)

4. Because I will never get over ikea, and these are some pretty awesome pieces. (domainehome.com)

5. Because everyone can use a good contour tip every once in a while.  (byrdie.com)

Christmas in Hawaii

2014 was a very trying year for me. Despite the hardships this year, I am so incredibly blessed that I was fortunate enough to spend the last ten days of the year with my beautiful family in Hawaii.

My parents and I met in Honolulu to spend Christmas with my brother who now attends UH Manoa.  I was so blown away by how over due this family vacation was. Since my parents have joined the ’empty nesters’ club, we haven’t done much family bonding. We laughed until our stomachs hurt, spoiled each other with thoughtful gifts, and made memories that will last a lifetime.

Where did you spend the holidays?

Weekends Are For Traveling

When life gets stressful and a little too pushy, take a mini-vacay.

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The month of November challenges me to stay mindful of everything I am thankful for.  This week I am thankful for the constant beauty surrounding me, my amazing friends and family, and God’s grace.

What are you thankful for?

Yes we can, Halloween edition.

Like every other fashion enthusiast on this planet, I love a good Halloween costume.  However, this year was a little tricky.  Drowning in work projects and busy schedules, I just couldn’t find the time to DIY my life away.  So after a few nights spent searching hashtags, my wardrobe and Pinterest, I came up with this.

Rosie the Riveter…. Beyonce style 😉

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You can never go wrong with an iconic costume idea.  And although, I didn’t have time to create a perfect backdrop – I took advantage of chalkboard paint.

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What were you for Halloween?

Monday Inspo

Whenever the weather begins to cool down, it’s so easy to start to get lost in our daily routines and a little less easy to stay on top of the little things that keep us going.  Since I find that motivation is the usually the root of my happiness, I thought I’d share a few of my favorite words of wisdom that keep me inspired and thankful.

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Everyone deserves to do at least one thing they love to do everyday.  Don’t hide behind responsibilities – You have as many hours in the day as Beyonce, girlfriend.

(via KWilentz)

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Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my work/ fitness/ busy schedule, that I forget to appreciate the littlest things – like how blessed I am to get to spend so much time with my best friend every single day (which also happens to be my boyfriend).  He is the world’s BEST eating partner, movie critic, comedian *sometimes*, and snuggler.

(Via Bustle Events)

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Leather is always a good idea.

Happy first day of Fall, fashionistas! Just like the rest of the women in this world, I am obviously obsessed with all things related to Fall – well except Pumpkin-spiced Lattes. I’ll stick with my zebra mocha, thanks though.  But otherwise yes, I DIE for the riding boots, chunky scarves, holiday food; but most of all the LEATHER! Since Arizona hasn’t quite received the Fall weather memo, yet – I have been forcing leather into my wardrobe every chance I get!

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Necklace: Top Shop |  Shoes: Top Shop | Dress: Brandy Melville | Jacket: Trouvé

This Trouvé gem appeared on the Nordstrom sale rack last Christmas.  (I must have done something right in this life to be so deserving). 

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Coming from a Neutrals-only-girl, this burgundy leather hits the spot.  It literally goes with EVERYTHING.  However, I’ve been on the lookout for a new leather jacket for over a month now! Here are a few I can’t stop day dreaming about…

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What is your favorite piece to wear in the Fall?

Weekend vibes

I’ll admit it.  I’m a sucker for a comfortable weekend outfit.

After a long week at work, I am constantly digging through my closet for the effortlessly comfy pieces.  Since it’s still pretty warm in Arizona, a kimono is my go-to-gal.  They are lightweight and the perfect third piece ( I firmly believe in the third piece rule.  ALWAYS wear a third piece, guys).

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